Home Grown Encouragement- Boosting Student Confidence Through Parent Involvement

Notes From Parents to Their Children

The Confidence Gap

We've all been there- it's test day (with ample advanced notice!) and several students seem to go into panic mode, or just before their group presentation, a student seems to lose all faith in their material. 

It's disheartening to see how quickly our students lose their confidence, so I became determined to find a quick way to bolster their emotions in these times of trouble! As I saw my desk littered with pictures of my husband and doggo, it dawned on me that we all need a little bit of “home” throughout our day, so I whipped up these "home grown encouragement" notes for parents to write to their kids! The social-emotional component is so important, especially these days! Kids need these reminders about confidence and motivation, particularly from the people who care most about them! 

Home Grown Encouragement Notes

Keep Them Connected to Home

I teach 7th graders, and even though they're teens(-ish), they still enjoy some positive-parent-love! With these personalized notes, parents write words of encouragement to their child in the way they see fit, then I privately slip the notes to students when they appear to need an emotional boost. It was awesome to watch as they peaked at their messages, smiled, and then slipped them into their binder pocket and got back to work. Sometimes, a bit of home is all we need!

So now that I know these notes of encouragement work in middle school, at the beginning of the year, I offer parents several copies to fill out during “Back To School Night”. The parents really appreciate this effort and love getting to write positive notes to their kids! I explain the goal and before they leave, I collect and keep the notes secretly stashed for the right moments! Parents often complete more than 5 notes apiece… and so many ask for more copies to take home and stash around their house! What a win! Then as the year carried on, when I saw a student was having a bad day or just needing a quick pick-me-up, I would slide one of their personal notes onto their desk and let them find it! For the kiddos whose parents do not fill out any notes, I always make extras for me to complete instead! 

Do your students ever need a moment to calm their nerves before a test, presentation, or try-out? Or even an extra push to keep going when taking a difficult test or learning a new unit?  These parent-notes are a quick way to make students smile and bolster their confidence when they need some extra emotional support! 

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Making Middle School Work: The Essentials

Memories of Middle School

Can we talk about middle school for a minute? I know, painfully awkward visions are flooding your memory, but it wasn't all bad, was it? Of course not!

 

Nowadays, when someone learns that I'm a 7th grade teacher, their immediate response is a deep sigh followed by apologies and sympathies. But I have the same response each time: I love teaching middle school because this age group is the perfect blend of maturity and innocence. They old enough to (sometimes) understand sarcasm while still being young enough to be truly excitable. Don't get me wrong, their emotions are out of whack (see my above comment regarding middle school crushes) and there are times when they can be downright mean, but those negative encounters are far outweighed by the hysterical nature of this age group. Thus, teaching middle school really is a Love Story, a Tragedy, and a Comedy in one.

Making Middle School Work: The Essentials

So let's talk logistics, the essentials for any middle school class. You'll need a steady set of routines,  a healthy dose of collaboration, and a consistent infusion of "student choice". Although there are a myriad of resources that have made my life in middle school ELA a successful one, here are my TOP 5 Tools for Teaching in Middle School:

#1: Class Syllabus

Heading back to school- let's set the right tone from day one! You'll need a simple and fair list of classroom rules, an engaging activity to review your expectations, and a visually appealing resource to provide to students and parents! With this infographic syllabus, students can be clearly informed of what is expected of them and what is not acceptable! Structure and boundaries are crucial in any middle school classroom.

#2: Technology Rules

Although technology is an incredible resource to have in the classroom, it is only beneficial with the proper guidelines in place for students! With this resource, you can present 5 fair rules to students in the first week of school, send them home to parents, and post a copy in your room as a reference!

#3: Signout Procedures

Promote positive student choices with ticket-passes that serve as student currency! Each month, students receive a set of tickets that they turn in when choosing to leave class for the bathroom, drinks, locker, etc. If they use all of their tickets, they do not receive a new set until the next month. For students who have remaining tickets from staying in class, hold a raffle drawing at the end of the month! Check out my post on Breaking The Bathroom Train for more details on how to implement this system in your class!

#4: Classroom Jobs

Build a classroom community and bolster student buy-in with classroom jobs! Using career-oriented job titles, students can connect with you and practice accountability, all while helping the class run like a well-oiled machine! In this resource, I offer over 10 jobs, each with varying levels of responsibility. Based on the number of students in each class, you can even assign more than one student to a task- like the supplies supervisor- I assign at least 2 students to get the materials organized once a week! These are so helpful and can be easily applied in any subject area!

#5: Group Role Cards

Collaboration is key! Provide these printable task cards to support student collaboration by outlining leveled responsibilities within each group! Students can select their desired collaborative role then self and peer evaluate based on the group's work that day.

Break the Bathroom Train! Try these Monthly Tickets Instead!

I remember it like it was yesterday, my sweet 3rd grade teacher, Mrs. Montgomery, calling out, "The bathroom train has left the station!"

In 3rd grade, much to my teacher's dismay, this meant that because one student asked to leave to use the bathroom, everyone jumped on board and a sort of train ensued, one student leaving class after the other. How could anything get accomplished with this train of students in and out of the room?

In middle school, this train still exists. It's a phenomenon really. Since I teach in 90 minute blocks, there are days when I do not have a single interruption for an hour, yet as soon as one student asks to leave, it's as if everyone was suddenly reminded that they too have a bladder. Oy vey.

Now I am certainly not suggesting that teachers deny students access to the bathroom. I mean, let's face it, we especially know the agony of needing to use the bathroom but being unable to because, well, we have to watch our class. Go figure! Instead, I set out to find a way to limit the bathroom train- this idea that students don't actually need to leave class but just simply want to "escape" the room for a bit.

Thus, I created Ticket Passes!   Woah. Life. Changing.

Here's the concept of my beloved Ticket Passes:

Students receive a set amount of tickets per month, adding their name in the space I provide. Whenever students need to leave for a drink, their locker, or the bathroom, they tear off a ticket and turn it in the class bin. If they lose or run out of tickets before the end of the month, they are not allowed to leave the room. Of course, I exclude any medical conditions and emergencies. At the start of the next month, I pass out new tickets and they collect any old remaining tickets. I've found that using color-paper works best so that each month I can see that students are using the new set, thus keeping this fair for all.


I usually find a great deal at Michaels over the summer and pick up a pack of neon paper, pastel paper, or whatever I can find that looks FUN! Each month, I pick a new color on which to print the passes, cut up the strips, and distribute! Viola! Instant student-accountability!

Find this resource pack HERE!

The key to this being effective is ensuring that both students and parents are aware that this is about student choice. If students are using all of their tickets in the first two weeks, they are most likely wasting their passes when they do not actually need to leave class. I always offer the example, "There are only five minutes of class left; do you really want to waste a ticket on going to the water fountain now?" Students almost always want to preserve their tickets and will quickly learn to choose wisely. 

I also provide examples about how students can avoid running out of tickets and finding themselves in a jam: 

• Come prepared to class to avoid an extra locker trip
• Get a drink during passing, before or after class
• Use the bathroom during homeroom or lunch

Much like any routine you set in class, it takes some time to truly catch on but the results are worth the effort! After implementing this strategy, my students are less likely to leave just to get out of class. This year, I tried a ticket raffle at the end of each month with any unused tickets. This served two purposes really:

1. Reward positive behavior for staying in class

2. Ensure that students weren't inclined to "hoard" old tickets in an attempt to reuse them the next month... because let's be honest #middleschoolbrains

Students suggested that we try a "trade-in value" for unused tickets, something like- for every ticket they had leftover, students get a point towards the next test. Depending on what September brings, I just might give it a go! 

What to Do on the First Day of School!

It's the end of July, about a month away from the start of my 7th year of teaching, and honestly, I do not feel refreshed at all. I know, this happens every summer, my big travel plans submit to more practical endeavors, but this year I really dove into making my "back to school" materials bigger and better- I know I'll thank myself later. 

I have vivid memories of way back in July 2011, just before I started my first year of teaching, where I literally scoured the internet looking for the answer to "What do I do on the first days of school?" I bought books and guides and resource packs, all to no avail. I survived, like most first-year teachers do, by reviewing my syllabus and having an independent summer reflection activity. None of this served any purpose. The following days were still hectic, overwhelming, and frankly, not as productive as they should have been. But I lived to see another day, and in fact, another six years of teaching thereafter. 

There are conflicting messages about how to conquer day one. Traditionalists promote that structure is of paramount importance on the first day of school, ensuring the need for a thorough review of rules, rubrics, and grade percentages. I've tried this, for several years in fact. While I can say that my students were certainly aware that I meant business, I can also say that they probably didn't go home that night and rave about me or my class during dinner with their parents.  

Here's what I wish I knew about starting the year in a middle school classroom. Kids this age are still (generally) nervous on the first day and are still (generally!) interested in pleasing their teacher. What's more, they are definitely not interested in my rambling about how much they need to do to earn an A in my class. Ineffective, plain and simple. 

Somewhere along the line, I remember feeling bored with my introduction to my students; a change was certainly needed. Uncomfortable as it was, I scrapped the first-day-rules-review routine and went rogue. *gasps* In a previous post, I wrote about this "buy-in" concept where students are more inclined to believe in what you're "selling" them if you frame your lessons like Ms. Frizzle. Yes, from "The Magic School Bus". This especially applies on the first day of school. My new-and-improved first day of school routine involves their name! And oh, what a difference this has made! 

The activity, aptly called "What's in a Name?", not only helps me learn their names faster but also lets me learn about each student in one shot, while also serving as a cute decoration for Back to School Night with parents. Using their name as the backdrop, students develop a collage of words and/or images that describe them. Each letter of the name is assigned a specific topic, such as their personality, goals, hobbies, strengths, etc. 

A great conversation tool, this activity allows me to have authentic, positive, and purposeful dialogue with each student on the first day. Rather than spending that time talking at students about what they cannot do in my class, it has been much more enjoyable talking with them about what they are good at. 

Having applied both the old and new schools of thought, it's fair to say that a blending of the two is both important and necessary to have an effective day one. I haven't completely scrapped the rules and routines- they do hold value, but my approach is totally different than it was several years ago. More on that to follow :)

Keep Your Head High & Your Expectations Higher!

Part of the reason people cringe at the thought of teaching in middle school is because their memories, like my own, are unpleasant. To be honest, when I was 12 years old, no amount of money or joy in the world would have been enough for me to commit to becoming a middle school teacher. It was just not a forgiving time in my life. That being said, there are times when students (of any age) can be downright mean or disrespectful, but just as in life, how we respond to trials and tribulations is what sets us apart. Hence, when a student says or does something that leaves you beside yourself, it is critical that you keep your head held high. They will not like you all of the time, they will not want your feedback or support, and some days they may disapprove of your hair or your outfit- oh, well. Teaching truly does require a thick skin, which can only be acquired through time and experience with negativity.

There are some who think that solving these problems boils down to lowering expectations, essentially making their class more like-able by requiring less of their students. This is never the answer. Differentiate, sure. Accommodate, sure. Modify, sure. More often than not, having high expectations works in your favor with classroom management, climate, and community. But under no circumstances should you lower your expectations simply to appease students who do not want to be pushed to their potential; this is the beginning of a slippery slope that undermines everything you've established in your class.


I remember after a formal observation, my principal asked how my students knew my expectations. Being a first-year teacher at the time, I hadn't really thought about it- I just assumed they did. So I've spent each year thereafter hyper-aware of whether my classes were being set up for success.


How to Set (& Maintain!) High Expectations for Your Students:


#1 Use Clear and Consistent Rubrics
My room is filled with poster-sized rubrics as constant reminders of my expectations for...

• Homework and Classwork
• Participation and Group work
• Speaking and Listening
• Project and Assessments 

While simply hanging these rubrics is not enough to be effective, they are certainly apparent for students to refer to.


#2 Leave No Room for Less
I realized that part of what my principal wanted to hear in response to that loaded question involved my routines.

Setting routines leaves little room for students to be unsure or unclear of what they are responsible for. When students know what they need to do, they have less room for excuses. Less room for excuses means they are more accountable, and of course, accountability is necessary to meet expectations. These routines are all well and good so long as we remember to follow through with their implementation!


#3 Practice What You Preach! 

Simply put, don't waver! It is paramount to follow through with the established expectations- from the beginning to the very last day of the year. Students immediately perceive whether our expectations are transparent, as in we say one thing but the grade or the feedback reflects another. Along with practicing daily class routines, we also need to model the expectations we are setting. For example, if you've established that vocabulary is to be incorporated into each of the essays, do not forgo that expectation as a part of the grading process. This means that during our time with students, feedback needs to be offered as a way to guide them towards those expectations. If and when students choose to disregard those expectations, don't waver! 

Part of making this effective involves developing samples for students to refer to. Yes, this seems obvious, but like routines, this is a process that we need to stick with throughout the year. When students are struggling or when they simply underperform, the immediate push is to lower the expectations. By establishing the requirements, instilling the routines, and grading according to those pre-discussed rubric elements, then we can practice what we preach in maintaining high expectations.

Be Your Own Ms. Frizzle for Your MIDDLE SCHOOL Students

I teach 7th grade English Language Arts, though my first year was in 6th grade, and my student teaching was in 8th grade, so I've literally seen the whole gambit of ages. Whenever someone outside of education learns of my career in middle school, they, without fail, offer sympathy about the awkward and immature nature of that age range. Truth is, although they're not totally wrong about my students being awkward or immature, there are countless times I've been left completely speechless by what I've seen, heard, or smelled in my classroom, it's this in-between, gray area that makes this age the most enjoyable to teach.

Simply put, middle schoolers, especially 7th graders, are young enough to still want to please you but old enough to understand sarcasm. This is the magic combination where children become "people". Of course, there is silly drama, occasional tears, and unsolicited attitudes, but the middle school classroom is not nearly as bad as it is often perceived. Looking to make a jump to a middle school classroom? Start by channeling Ms. Frizzle.

I know, who didn't love Ms. Frizzle from the Magic School Bus? Even tweens and teens can still appreciate how bubbly and excited she was about learning every day. Okay, fine, maybe middle schoolers aren't excited all the time, but there is something to be said about being excited about what we teach. My students literally call me out every time I say, "this is my favorite unit of the year," because I repeat it with every unit I introduce out of genuine excitement. Just because they are in middle school doesn't mean that students are too mature to feel a contagious wonder. There's a buy-in that comes with being the quirky teacher, a trust that needs to be established, a mantra that needs to be instilled: "There is a method to my madness."

Being quirky is awesome and super effective in the middle school setting but only if you can back it up with purposeful and engaging material that doesn't waste their time. Part of why kids love Ms. Frizzle, aside from her being a super fun elementary teacher, is because she is incredibly knowledgable. Having that balance is key in order for students to trust you and appreciate your unique approach to the material.

When you think about it, middle schoolers are still kids, learners who'd prefer to run than sit, compete than collaborate, and let's face it, text than write. By channeling your inner Ms. Frizzle, engaging students doesn't need to be a daunting task. Of course, it won't be as epic as a magic school bus, but my students always buy-into my process when I frame my lesson as part of something more. For standardized test prep, I structured an "Amazing Race" competition complete with prizes. Research writing? The unit was framed as the 90's game show, "Legends of the Hidden Temple" (More posts to follow on these topics, with resources!) With these concepts, the focus shifted away from the mundane routine and added new life to tedious and challenging concepts. Most importantly, if we think about what was most endearing about Ms. Frizzle, this extra effort makes the material accessible, enjoyable, and relatable for students in the middle school classroom.

Intro to Blogging...Sort of

Greetings!

A teacher, you ask? That I am! In just over two weeks, I will be closing out my 6th year of teaching middle school English Language Arts, which is incredible! Having just received my tentative schedule for next September, I'm in complete prep-mode. Over the next several weeks, I'll be posting about breaking down and organizing my classroom for summer, as well as various ways to get situated for the first day of school before the last day of school arrives!
Follow my journey as I close our year six of teaching!

After about 9 years, I randomly stumbled across my old blog that I, semi-unwillingly, created in college. After a variety of failed username and password attempts, I semi-unwillingly created a new account; thus, we meet here today. While my original blog was intended for college research, a place to showcase the key takeaways from that week's readings, now that I'm a teacher, I'm hoping to share best practices, tips and tricks, and of course, a few good stories!